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Generation Z and Keyboarded Love
Ten years ago, had anyone told you, “We met online”, you may have tried to choke one or possibly all of the following: A giggle, An awkward smile, or A look of shame. It was the equivalent of declaring, “I’m hopeless and the ticking of my biological clock keeps me up at night.”
This is hardly a new marvel. Online dating has been around as long as the web made it possible for two people to reach each other. Now, millions log on to websites and apps every day to search through photos and profiles of strangers, hoping to spot that special someone. Many of today, singles are kissing fate goodbye and scanning for love digitally.
The bombardment of TV ads and word-of-mouth praise, digital daters are coming out of the closet. And no one is deeper into the trend than Christians.
Of course as long as there has been online dating, there has been a stigma attached to it. Let’s look at several graduate school students, sharing their thoughts on dating online.
First came the cynics:
“I would not adopt it. I accept nothing is impossible for God, God can do all things… I feel it would be irreverent to not involve God in the marriage selection process.”
“I’m a single skeptic, emphasis on skeptic! It’s quite ironic because I am very tech-forward! Yet, I don’t trust online dating… it looks like people can camouflage their issues. Plus, you can recount all kinds of tall tales unchallenged [and] unchecked…heck, sometimes it’s difficult enough to tell when people are lying to your face!”
“I am single, but I would never think of using an online dating service. In my opinion, it is a sign of desperation and could be very risky as well.”
Reading those, I was almost convinced this was a practice only for the lonely and sexually deviant.
Then, the proud testimonies poured in:
“I wouldn’t have dared to dream of someone who knows instinctively when to put his arm around me, take my hand, or take me home when I’m exhausted. I’d always imagined of a man who loved Jesus, wasn’t afraid to show it and would pray with me at church and home. I now have that. We are so thankful, and we remember to praise God for bringing us together… God saved each of us for the other.”
“I will be celebrating my first wedding anniversary. It was truly the most romantic mind-blowing experience that I have ever had… We were matched and spent hours emailing and talking on the phone. It was amazing. I did not believe in soul mates until I met him.”
“We chatted for about nine months online before we ever moved to talk on the phone. After a while of speaking on the phone, we knew we had deep feelings for each other. Finally, we determined to meet and there was no turning back. It will be two years since we met the first time and we just got married.”
Truly, there is something extraordinary to be found online for a single heart who accepts to look there.
As popular as this is becoming, digital love still begs a few interrogations:
Where Does God Factor?
Many good little Christian daughters and sons are taught that God will deliver thee a future mate. This enduring approach to life is especially dazzled more upon women. It’s “he who findeth a wife” after all. We’re not deemed to be actively looking. It’s a sign we don’t trust God.
In answer to this, a friend of mine told me, “Look, You have an advisor to help you choose courses in college. you hire an agent when you buy a house. Why not have someone help you locate the love of your life?” He had a point. Why have we been leaving the most significant decision of our lives up to befall?
When challenged, many of my fortunate couples said God motivated them to seek the Internet and they know it was His direction that led them together in this non-traditional sense. It makes sense since God is a non-traditional God.
What If He/She Is a Psychopath?
Another concern is the noted risen chance of meeting someone socially inept, crazy, or worst yet… married. It’s surely valid. The anonymous nature of chatting online and via dating apps is like a mating call to the weirdos of the world.
Genuine dating solutions have methods to reduce your contact with these kinds of people. Comprehensive questionnaires, private chats, and in-depth character profiles are now common features on the top matchmaking services.
Some of these test outcomes are surprisingly insightful. The process of discovering someone could help you discover yourself.
Go with sites and apps endorsed by friends who have used them. With the right one, reaching someone online is no riskier than meeting someone at a coffee shop.
Whatever Happened to Faithful Romance?
Your eyes meet from across the room. You grudgingly go on a blind date only to be captivated by a stranger. He grabs your Mocha latte by mistake. You talk, you laugh, you fall in love, then you marry two years later.
We all have our Love fantasies about that first magical encounter. I ponder any of us envisioned starting a love story with…“I logged on and liked his profile, so I sent him an ice-breaker.” Not indeed romantic.
Of course, if we deeply think about it, numerous events in our lives haven’t gone according to plan…and maybe for good Godly reason. Isaiah 55:9 says, “For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts.” One element that makes God God is that He doesn’t have to follow our roadmap. That’s a healthy thing.
Could True Love Be Found Online?
Life is full of surprises. It would be quite terrible if you missed out on someone exceptional because he or she didn’t land the way you expected.
There are a lot of big reasons to stop envying the bride and groom and go find your wedded bliss online love. But, the most crucial thing is to attend to the Lord. What is He saying about your future? Pray. In the end. we must, above all else, Love Him first.
It’s easy to let the emotions of being left out of love cloud our thinking. We must free our minds to the possibilities. Whether it falls in the aisle of a bookstore, the counter at a coffeehouse, or in the digital cloud, there’s nothing wrong with holding out for the fairy tale to arrive.
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